A way to avoid the feeling of guilt and its internal call to bring us to seeing our own part in relationship is by hanging on to blame. Blame becomes a wall between our hearts and seeing our own actions. It can be a way for us to avoid our own humanity. Blame judges the ones we believe have harmed us so that we don’t have to feel our own hurt and often our own desire for restoration of relationship. We judge others as being unwilling, bad, or in denial so that we do not have